How To STOP Being A NICE GUY (It Ruins Your Life)

 

Are you an alpha male or a beta male, Mr. Nice Guy?

This post might hurt your feelings, but it can help you tremendously in the future. The truth is, a lot of men fall into the nice guy category even without realizing it.

Perhaps, you or someone you know is always playing the nice guy. If you are the nice guy, it’s not your fault, whether it was because you grew up without a father, because the education system was dominated by female, because of the wave of extreme feminism — or maybe a combination of all the above.

Whatever turned you into the nice guy, it’s not your responsibility to look forward and get rid of the nice guy. Act before you start wondering what’s wrong with being a nice guy.

I want you to know that there is a big difference between being a good guy and being Mr. Nice Guy. the main belief all nice guys have is that if they’re just nice enough to everyone, the world will give them exactly what they want.

This is a fantasy land, the reality is that the nicer you are at the expense of yourself, the more people will take advantage of it.

But what if I told you that there is a very dark side to the nice guy? what if I told you the typical nice guy isn’t really a nice guy at all?

Nice guys only appear to be nice on the outside but in reality, it’s only because they secretly want something back in return. The nice guy often is a very passive aggressive individual who tries to get what he wants, through manipulation.

By being nice, Nice guys always seek approval while avoiding conflict.

The alpha male is the exact opposite of the nice guy, in every way. If the alpha is kind, it is because he chooses to genuinely be kind without any strings attached or need for validation.

The alpha male isn’t afraid to disagree with others and is not afraid of conflict. The alpha isn’t looking for trouble, but he doesn’t avoid it either. He welcomes conflict with open arms when it comes his way, unlike the nice guy.

The nice guy will walk on eggshells in order to not offend anyone. They do this not only to please everyone, but it is also an act of cowardice. You see, most people who are cowards disguise their cowardice as morality.

They hide the fact that they lack the abilities to be dangerous or deal with conflict under the name of moral integrity. In other words, what they say is “I don’t do that because I’m too good of a person”, instead of, “I don’t do that because I’m a coward”.

When it comes to dating, the nice guy loses to the alpha male 10 out of 10 times. You see, the nice guy has a very condescending mindset.

They put themselves on a pedestal and pretend to be the ideal option. The nice guy will go out of his way to show off how nice he is. When the nice guy gets rejected by a woman, he will insist that women don’t know what they want.

The alpha male does not waste his energy putting on a show like the nice guy. The alpha male does not care if people don’t like him for who he is now.

Of course, just like the nice guy, the alpha male can also get rejected by women. The big difference is that the alpha male is a straight shooter and he does not deny reality or pretend to be friends.

If an alpha male gets rejected, he knows that there are more fish in the sea and he will keep moving forward. The nice guy will often waste his time in the friend zone, sometimes for years.

The nice guy might never acknowledge that he ever got rejected. All to reality and his mind, nice guys really do finish last because of their flawed mindset and behaviors.

In order to fix this, you have to first recognize that there is a problem. That is the first, look at yourself objectively, are you resentful or bitter in many situations because you don’t get what you want. Pay attention to yourself as if you don’t know yourself and face the bitter truth about yourself.

The second thing you need to do is start saying “no” to people. Stop letting yourself be taken advantage of because you. You can’t say no and get walked over by people because of it rather than someone disliking you for it, you might be surprised to find that they actually start respecting you more for standing up for yourself.

It is okay, to be a little selfish in life. Love yourself and do not sacrifice yourself for people that wouldn’t do the same for you.

Only be nice if you genuinely mean it, being nice isn’t about getting a reward genuine kindness is done without the expectation of acknowledgment or getting something in return.

You do it out of the goodness of your own heart, because you want to see the life of someone else Get better.

You might not be in great physical shape, and you need to start hitting the gym. After all, a strong body is a strong mind. Start to speak and walk with confidence as it leverages your poor physicality and and Flabby stomach.

Stand-up For yourself, for one who can’t stand up for himself can’t stand up for what’s WRONG.

Learn to fight, it doesn’t make you violent, it makes you capable of Violence. Many Times, in life, you need violence though one should resort it’s use; it becomes often times necessary.

For example, if you’re constantly called names by your friends, it’s time to let them know the consequences.

These are the few tips that I can Impart.

Let me know for Part 2.

Love and Regards,

Shreyas Raj.