11 Things ONLY Fake Friends Do (Your friend is a snake)

Be honest, do you have fake friends? Most people are surrounded by fake friends, and they don’t even know it.

They live in a fantasy land, an illusion far away from reality, but it all ends the moment their friend stabs them in the back. I’ve been through it myself, and I know how painful betrayal is.

That is why I will tell you 11 things. Only fake friends pay attention because this is important.

1. Downplay your achievements

Good friends can give constructive criticism when you need it, but they do it out of Good Will and they are extremely supportive. Fake friends however gives destructive criticism, he wants to stop your momentum and make you insecure and when you bring up an accomplishment. They may bring up something impressive that they did or try to downplay your achievement.

You see deep in his heart he considers you an enemy that he needs to crush at all times.

2. You can’t be yourself around them

Can you relax and be yourself around your friend or do you have to put on a mask and fake it to fit in. Think about that and be honest with yourself. If you like reading manga and your friend does not like manga or anime at all, can you still be yourself and Read Manga around him or will he make fun of you for it.

If he likes hip-hop and you like rock music, will he respect it even if he doesn’t like rock music himself. Real friends allow you to be yourself because they accept you and like you for who you are; fake friends don’t. If you need to fake interest or pretend to be someone else to make their friendship work, it’s not a true friendship.

3. Always surrounded by drama

If someone says they don’t like drama, yet they seem to be surrounded by it, there’s a good chance they are the source of the problem. If you are losing respect for a friend, this could be why it’s hard to respect someone who keeps making trouble for themselves.

Fake friends are often dramatic; for example, they may announce that they are breaking up with a friend or partner but then change their mind. They tend to cause arguments and misunderstandings wherever they go.

They also make a big deal of small things and don’t own up to their mistakes. Real friends try to solve your differences and find a middle ground where you agree that they would rather have a calm discussion than throw a temper tantrum.

4. Doesn’t defend you

Men should be willing to fight for their friends. I always say you should be willing to die for your true friend and vice versa, but let’s forget about that extreme case for a moment because the same also applies in less extreme situations.

Do they stand up for you? If someone else is making jokes at your expense, a friend will get uncomfortable if strangers are making fun of you. No matter how many people are laughing, he will not laugh.

He may even get angry and tell them to keep their mouth shut because when you get disrespected, he feels disrespected. A fake friend, on the other hand, will laugh the hardest when you are being made fun of.

He will throw oil on the fire and have a great time at your expense.

5. 1 up you

For example, if you tell them, you got a new phone, they will claim their phone is better or criticize your phone. They act like this because they have an inferiority complex and must prove they’re better than everyone else.

6. Humiliate You

A fake friend has no honour, no pride, and he will humiliate you to make himself look good. He will talk behind your back and laugh about your shortcomings with other people.

A true friend would never gossip about you behind your back and spread all your secrets to everyone, no matter how juicy the rumor would be or how popular it would make them. They would never jeopardize your friendship or humiliate you like that by stabbing you in the back.

7. They Sabotage You

Similar to the humiliation, a fake friend will sabotage you in certain scenarios. Let’s say you’re out with a girl. This friend may come up to you and say something purposefully embarrassing about you to make the girl lose interest.

They may play it off in a joking way and act as if it’s funny, but it’s all intended to sabotage you. A true friend will not only understand it, but he’ll also support you.

8. The Lack Understanding

If you need your space, he’ll give it to you. Of course, this does not mean you should neglect the friendship, but a true friend will remain your friend even if he hasn’t talked to you for a while.

A fake friend, on the other hand, will feel offended by your absence. He does not want to give you the time and space because the world revolves around him. This type of individual will ridicule you for your actions while disregarding your goals and objectives.

They completely lack any form of understanding.

9. Act differently around people

Fake friends act differently depending on who is around. They’re nice in a one-on-one conversation but mean towards you in a group setting. You will see them switch their colours like a chameleon.

It is disgusting. Real friends are consistent and not two-faced.

10. Don’t make up for their mistakes

Real friend will make up for his mistakes if he accidentally crosses your boundaries.

He will apologize when you tell him how you feel and make sure to never do it again. If you had planned to do something together but he can’t make it, he’ll let you know beforehand and try to make up for it in some way. A fake friend does not care.

These types of friends overstep your boundaries all the time, and if you had planned to do something together, the fake friend does not care if he doesn’t show up and leaves you hanging; he changes his plans on a whim and goes on to do something else because you are not important to him.

These types of individuals may come up with some lousy excuse later, and if you let him know how he should have let you know beforehand, he may even get annoyed or irritated by your reaction.

Listen, everyone makes mistakes, but real friends own up to them and will try to do better in the future.

11. Their behavior is repetitious

Last but not least, if there’s no sign of any of the previous Behavior stopping, that’s a big red flag because it shows you it’s not just a one-time mistake.

You can be sure you’re dealing with her fake friend if this person has done various things over and over that have shown they’re not a good friend. So pay attention.

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Love and Regards,

Shreyas Raj.