Telling a guy to “Just be confident” as dating advice is like telling a depressed person to “Just cheer up”.

If I could, “Just be confident” don’t you think I would be already?! I hate being nervous around new people, but I can’t just decide to not be. I already understand how important confidence is. I can’t explain why I don’t have any because I don’t know.

A depressed person may want to cheer up, but they just can’t make themselves happy. There is more to it.

This is how I feel about it. I know I can’t be the only one.

A lot of people are saying to “fake it until you make it”. That advice also feels dumb. If I knew how to fake being confident, isn’t that just acting confident? Even if I do not feel confident acting like I do requires me to know what the fuck I am doing. It’s like, when I try to talk to someone, I just met I just lock up and can’t think of anything to say. I make some meek greetings before withdrawing from the conversation into myself. I know this is an issue, but don’t know how to get around it. If I just knew how to get past that hurdle than I wouldn’t have an issue with confidence. I would just be able to talk to people.

“Fake it until you make it” falls into the same pitfall. If I could, I already would!

The only solution I found was to actually spend less time on things like social media and Instagram and rather spend more time on building thyself up!

I was not confident (or was even able to fake that) until I was worthy for the confidence. You should be worthy of the confidence to be more confident cause here’s the truth,

Masturbation and being out of shape (which I suspect most of you are) will never make you confident, that is why in shape and successful guys are confident. They made themselves worthy of that confidence!

And confidence = more sexual partners.

Maybe now you will work on yourself instead of wasting away your life!

Love you all,

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Awokecitizen out!